Having found a woman willing to allow me to serve her, my purpose as a submissive is to center my attention on the pleasure of my lovely and gracious Domina. A submissive gets his/her pleasure from serving his/her Dominant. Any other pleasures are gifts from the Dominant. So I do not seek any pleasures or rewards from my Domina. I seek only to ensure herr pleasure and entertainment, to make her life easier in any way I can. I trust her to see to my needs as she pleases.

This is a concept that is often hard for those not in the D/S community to understand. It is not being weak, but being strong in willing to give up control of my own needs and pleasures to another. I surrender myself for the pleasure of serving her.

I do not lose my identity in serving my Domina. I just put her pleasure before mine. She requires my strength, my intelligence, and my self-esteem to be served properly. I am capable of standing by myself, but I am happier to be serving her.

How I got to where I am now

My public life was never much of a problem. I got established on a career path and moved a long it well.

 My private life was much more complicated. I have always been and still am drawn to strong women. Women who are assertive and strong-willed. But my relationships with them never worked out well. They always wanted me to be the strong, aggressive male who somehow always knew what they wanted done. I, on the other hand, just wanted to make them happy.

It took me awhile to realize that I was a male submissive. I did not want an assertive and strong-willed woman, I needed a dominant woman, one whom I could serve and support. So began my journey as a male submissive, searching for the woman whom I could serve and honor.